Don’t get me wrong. I’m one of the few left who think we did the right thing in coming here in the first place. I saw with my own eyes the killing fields where Sadaam’s henchmen hosed down innocents with machine gun fire before covering their bleeding bodies with a bull dozer. I saw the bones bleaching in the sun as family members tried to identify lost friends and relatives from rotted fragments of clothing. I know we have paid a heavy price in blood and treasure. But all that’s over now, right?
One of my corpsmen was in this region of western Iraq just a few years ago and saw his buddy shot in the neck by a sniper as they patrolled through town. Now we walk through that same town with barely a notice from the locals. These days the Iraqi police and security force are the ones going after the bad guys. They don’t arrest people, read them their rights and put them in jail. They just shoot them, bring their bodies in for the children to see what happens to bad people, and then they post the pictures of their ‘kills’ on the police station wall. Not exactly how we do it in America, but it works.
The Battle of Fallujah is over. I heard they had a 5k race there this year. So what am I still doing here? “I fear when you leave,” my Iraqi colleague told me in confidence one day. “When you leave the fighting will just start all over. ” He was just saying what a lot of people have been thinking. Everyone fears a return of the cancer of violence.
“But we can’t stay over here forever,” I said. “You no longer need us. You’ll be fine. At some point you have to just get back to the job of living.” And what about me? I’ve spent over a year of my life in this hell hole and I’m just tired. I want to go home. Every day I get up and face the same question: what am I going to do today? I want to do something constructive. I read books. I exercise. I want my time here to mean something. But it seems like I spend a lot of time in the ‘horizontal time accelerator’, my bed. The truth is I do a lot of nothing. I just end up killing time.
Pondering this thought the other day I remembered a guy I met one time after a long shift. I had been racing through the entire night seeing patient after patient, ordering stat labs and IV drugs. I thought the stream of patients would never end, but then, all of a sudden, it was gone. Tempting fate, I went out to take a victory lap in what I assumed was an empty waiting room and found an older man sitting quietly in a wheel chair. His thin patches of gray hair and the wasting skin hanging from his face made him seem like a young man in an old man’s body. “How long have you been waiting to be seen?” I asked.
“Oh, hi doc,” he said pleasantly as he looked up. “I didn’t see you. I’m not waiting to get into the ER. I’ve already been there. You treated me, remember?”
I didn’t. Seeing my distress he responded warmly, “You saw me in your ER about sixteen months ago. I came in with a cough and you admitted me to the hospital.”
“Oh,” I said, forgiving my forgetfulness. “I admitted you?” I was incredulous, knowing that I wouldn’t admit someone simply for a cough.
“Well, I was coughing up a little blood, too. So you took a chest X-ray. You were the one who found my cancer.”
Suddenly his face morphed in my mind’s eye and it took my breath away. I did remember him. But he looked like he had aged 20 years since then. I remembered him because his case had caused me to look hard at myself in the mirror. If I was given six months to live, what changes would I make?
“What happened?” I asked. But he understood the implied question considering his prognosis.
“You mean why am I still alive?” he said with a warm smile. “I got healed.”
“Really?” I blurted out, betraying my incredulity.
“Yeah, a lot of prayers plus several rounds of chemo that almost killed me. The doctors told me they found no trace of the cancer any more. They called it a remission, but I called it a healing.”
“Wow, that’s great,” I said slowly, straining to read between the lines. “So what are you doing here now?”
“Well they found a little cancer coming back, so I get chemo.”
Some healing, I thought bitterly. As if reading my mind he chimed in, “Even if it didn’t last forever, at least I was given a chance. And I’m grateful for that.”
“A chance?”
“Yeah, a chance to live another day. You know, to do something with my life. It’s like they say, ‘It’s not how long you live, but how you live that makes it a life.’ I want to have an impact on my kids. I want another day to love my wife. I even have a chance to live to 80. But I’ll be happy with two out of three. Remember what you told me? Everyone’s day is 24 hours. Live it. Well here I am. It’s my son’s birthday.”
“So…what are you doing?” I asked again to complete my first question.
“Oh I don’t need the ER anymore. I’m just waiting to go home. What are you going to do today, Doc?”
“Oh, me?” I said looking at myself in the mirror. “I’m not sure.”
3 Comments
20March2009
Greetings, Mark,
As always, I appreciate your insight and your writing talent in these columns. With no intent to diminish respect for the selfless service you have given your country (or the selfless service my son has provided in the same theater as a Navy Hospital Corpsman with the Marines in Fallujah) and with no intent to again stir any of the heinous disrespect shown to my fellow Viet Nam era veterans when we came home from that atrocity, I must point out a glaring contradiction.
You think, “…we did the right thing in coming here in the first place.†to remove Saddam for his role in the “killing fieldsâ€. Then in your next paragraph, you continue “They just shoot them, bring their bodies in for the children to see what happens to bad people, and then they post the pictures of their ‘kills’ on the police station wall.â€
I see little difference between the killing fields of Saddam, and the new killing fields of the militias. Just a new set of thugs, armed and trained by us, substituted for the old set of armed thugs, working for Saddam.
And then in your next paragraph you point out what everyone over there understands will follow right on the heels of our inevitable departure, “Everyone fears a return of the cancer of violence.†A civil war among three well trained and heavily armed factions, each the implacable foe of the others. How many more innocents will die for our mistakes?
Agreed, the evil of Saddam was responsible for the death of thousands. But Bush, Cheney, Rumsfield, Wolfowitz, Perle, Rove, and company are burdened with responsibility for the death of tens, and maybe hundreds, of thousands.
I must disagree with you. We did the wrong thing in coming here in the first place. And now our troops, maybe you, and probably my son, will be shifted from this theatre of grievous error, to repeat the same mistakes in Afghanistan.
With Regards,
Dwight Burdick, MD, FACEP
Dwight:
No disrespect is taken. Thank you for your comments, even though you disagree. That is the beauty of America. I am not naive to the mistakes made in Iraq, but it is my opinion, and that of many in Iraq, that the overall effect has been overwhelmingly positive. Certainly not everything. And it has come at a high price. And it will take some time to see the full effect. But I believe history will prove it to be the right move. However, you may be right about Afghanistan. I would love to hear the conversations between you and your Navy corpsman son.
Semper fi,
Mark
Hi Mark,
My son and I talk, and do so frequently. In our conversations he receives nothing less than 100% of my love, respect, and honor. If I find only a little good in the world news I follow so compulsively, that little good is what we speak about. I could not bear it if he returned home, or failed to return home, feeling even a hint of disapproval from me.
I have nothing but respect and honor for every one of our troops.
For the politicians who send them to wars I oppose, I have serious questions.
With Regards,
Dwight